We asked carers to share their experiences of caring and attending our free trips to the Hallé.
This is Cathy’s story.
Why do you come to the Hallé concerts?
I have only recently started to attend. I have a keen interest in all music, but particularly classical. I enjoy how the music takes you on a journey and is a warm distraction from the humdrum of daily activities!
Who do you care for? Do they come to the Hallé with you?
I care for both my parents and a family friend who have a mixture of chronic illness/disability and mental health difficulties. I help with day-to-day activities such as shopping, cleaning and taking to appointments. I have been once before to Hallé, my cousin was to attend but could not make the traffic as she too is an unpaid carer and was returning from a medical appointment. I am planning my next visit with my dad who I support.
How do you feel about the label ‘carer’?
I have worked in the field of mental health for some time and am very familiar with the term carer. I think often people assume if you are family that the word carer should not be used. It was through my knowledge of some training of unpaid carer that I identified as a carer, although with or without a label I would be supporting my family and friends with their needs due to disabilities and illness. That said, I recognise the need to ensure I keep myself well and fulfilled in other areas to be the best support I can be when I’m needed.
How often do you get to take a break from your caring responsibilities? Is it easy for you to get a break?
Rarely, as I am a full-time mum and have two jobs along with my caring responsibilities, but I try and take advantage of when I do get free time to do something that I find cathartic and therapeutic, that essentially ‘fills my cup’!
What is something you wish more people knew about carers or caring? What one thing would make the biggest improvement to your life as a carer?
I recently did some training on burnout and there was a quote that was given, this is what I would like anyone who supports others to take note: “Rest is a radical act of self love in a world that glorifies exhaustion”.
